Lupita Nyong’o vs Alicia Keys: Black Beauty Standard

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What is beauty? Many say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Therefore anyone can come up with their own definition of beauty.  I can agree with that to a certain extent. We all have our own personal like and dislikes.  But in a male dominated society the beauty of a woman is very important.  There are many good looking men in the world but it only carries you so far as a man.  But for women their beauty can open many doors for them.  A man is usually judged by his financial status.  It’s ultimately about what is his income and can he be a provider.  There are many women who have college degrees and make a lot of money nowadays.  But for the most part women are still judged by their beauty.  Their beauty is seen as social capital.  Not only is our society dominated by men…but also dominated by Europeans.  This makes things doubly hard for black/African women.  The woman in the picture above is actress Lupita Nyong’o.  Over the last few years she has taken Hollywood by storm. Lupita is an African woman.  She was born in Mexico and raised in Kenya.  She has been praised for her acting ability most notably the film 12 Years a Slave.  Which he won an Academy award for.  But she has also been praised for her beauty.  When I first saw her in an interview back in 2013 I thought she was a stunning beauty.  She had a beautiful smile,full lips and smooth dark chocolate skin. She has a very asymmetrical face. Her beauty seems almost otherworldly.  I was somewhat surprised that the media was giving her so much praise.  The white media rarely gives praise to a black woman with her skin tone and features. I haven’t seen this since maybe Lauryn Hill. Lauryn was a close second by the way.  I almost picked her for this post. But it was praise that was well deserved.  Although I find her gorgeous there are far more light skinned/biracial women that get more praise in the media.

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Which brings me to singer/actress Alicia Keys.  Many black men I’ve talked to say that Alicia Keys is a beautiful woman. She’s not a bad looking woman at all.  But I’ve heard people say that she is a great representation of a beautiful black woman. This is a serious problem in the black community.  The problem is that Alicia Keys is biracial/mixed. She has a  white mother. The issue is really not about Alicia Keys.  I’m just using her as an example.  It’s more about what she represents. And I’ve heard other people say that actresses like Paula Patton,Halle Berry,Stacey Dash,Zendaya Coleman,Zoe Kravitz,Tracee Ellis Ross,Thandie Newton and Carmen Ejogo ..described as beautiful black women.  Even though they are all biracial women. This is the problem with the black beauty standard. And this is what needs to change. We have to be honest about this.

This video by Youtuber Chrissie explains the problem of biracial women getting so much shine.  Many of them get offended and upset when this reality is pointed out.  The reality is that a women like Alicia Keys should not be the representative of black beauty.  Every race and ethnic group has it’s own standard.  Whites have a standard and Asians have their standard.  When a woman is part Chinese and part African,the Chinese  do not accept that woman as their standard of beauty.  They will say she’s mixed race and in most cases most Asians don’t accept them as Asian at all.  So why is it so different with black people? Why do black people so willingly accept biracial women as OUR standard of beauty?

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As far as an African standard of beauty I would choose Lupita. Some of you may disagree with me.  I know there are thousands of African woman I could choose from.  I have featured many of them here on my blog.  But Lupita is an easy choice considering she is in the spotlight at the moment.  I think the one-drop rule has brainwashed millions of black people.  We think anything that is lighter skinned and light eyes is a better representation of blackness.  A watered down version is better than what we really look like.  There are millions of dark skinned and brown skinned black women who never make it big in the acting or modeling world.  And the few that do are not seen as “classic beauties”.  They are always seen as the “exotic other”.  Much the same way many whites in Hollywood look at Lupita.  But I really don’t care what racist whites think.  I’m more concerned about what we think and how we feel about each other.  We can no longer let the pseudoscience of the one drop rule over us anymore. We should be able to create our own standard of beauty.  We should not let another group of people dictate to us what should be considered attractive.

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It’s okay if people disagree with me.  But who would you choose?  Name three women you think would be a good representation of black beauty. They can be actresses,models,singers etc.  What is African beauty? What should black beauty look like? What women would represent it the best?

Black Love Denied: Black Men & Latinas…a better match?(Part 2 of 3)

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There’s another trend going on.  The attack on black love is very real. I told you what they’re doing to black women in part one. Now I’ll show what they’re trying to do with brothers. This picture(above) is from the Fox drama Rosewood. It premiered back in September 2015.  It stars Morris Chestnut in his first leading role on television. He plays a doctor on the show and he is paired with Puerto Rican actress Jaina Lee Ortiz.  She plays a Miami detective. There is a beautiful black actress in the show as well played by Gabrielle Dennis. But she plays the sister to Chestnut’s character.  She also plays a lesbian with a white girlfriend no less.  Black people playing homosexuals and lesbians is something I’ve covered many times in the past. That’s a whole different subject. But this post is about a trend I’ve noticed a lot in the last twenty  years or so. I have seen a steady increase of latina actresses playing the romantic interest to black men in countless films and television shows. Although in Rosewood, Morris and Jaina have not officially “hooked up” they flirt with each other in nearly every episode.  It is only a matter of time before they eventually get together.

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The first time I can remember seeing this was in the film Money Train.  This was way back in 1995.  It starred Wesley Snipes and Jennifer Lopez.  I remember this because I believe it was the first love scene Lopez ever did.

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Then I remember seeing Cuban actress Eva Mendes with Denzel Washington in Training Day(2002).  She also played his ex-wife in the film Out of Time.  And she also played Will Smith girlfriend in the film Hitch(2005).

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In that silly ass comedy Boat Trip(2002),Roselyn Sanchez played the love interest for Cuba Gooding Jr.  They had absolutely no chemistry together and the film wasn’t even funny. But I think this is a disturbing trend.  I know some people will say that it’s no big deal sense these are “women of color”.  But this is nonsense to me.  It doesn’t matter if many Puerto Ricans have 15%-20% African ancestry.  The fact remains that most of them have  over 60% European ancestry.  They are mostly white.  Theses are the facts!  They may speak Spanish or Portuguese but they are not African women.  We need more roles showing black love across the board.  These Latinas are being used to promote race mixing as a better alternative to black love.   It’s also a way to show that Latinas are better for black men.  All this “love has no color” crap sounds silly to me!  Hollywood is terrified of black men and women loving one another and creating beautiful black babies. They seem to promote anything that can further divide black me and women. I get the feeling that black people loving each other is their biggest fear.

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In the film Four Brothers(2005)singer/actor Tyrese was the love interest for Colombian actress Sofia Vergara. I remember thinking they were such an odd pairing when I saw this film.  They film was okay as far as action films go.  But in the film Tyrese was adopted by an old white woman.  And he had three adoptive brothers.  Two of them were white guys. One of them played by Mark Wahlberg.  It was really silly.  You know how Hollywood likes to show blacks who were raised by whites as “decent negroes”.  It was truly a waste of film. I wish I could get my money back.

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South Beach(2006) was a television drama starring Odette Annable and the late Lee Thompson Young. Annable has a Cuban mother and her father is French/Italian. So that would make her…….white right?

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In 2010 there was the television show The Event. It starred Blair Underwood as the President of the United States.  The First Lady was played by Puerto Rican actress Lisa Vidal. In the show Underwood’s character’s name was Elias Martinez. He was an Afro-Latin man so I guess that’s why his wife was a Latina right?  But why not a more black looking Afro-Latina then? I think you know the answer.

Also in 2010 there was the film Our Family Wedding.  It’s about a black man(Lance Gross) marrying a Hispanic woman.  The woman is Honduran actress America Ferrera.  It’s a comedy about the blending of different races and cultures.  This video clip is my favorite scene in the film.  It shows the Hispanic grandmother fainting when she sees her grand daughter’s black fiancée.  It’s kind of funny but also very realistic. Mainly because this is how many of these old(and young) Hispanic family members truly feel when their daughter/niece/grand daughter is marrying a black man. It’s done in a comical way but underneath is the truth of their anti-blackness. Which runs throughout Hispanic/Latin culture.

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Do you recognize this man? That’s John David Washington. The son of legendary actor Denzel Washington.  Not sure if many people know that he’s acting on the comedy television series Ballers(2015). He plays a  professional football player character named Ricky Jerret.  In the series his fiancée  is Cuban actress Anabelle Acosta. In his first starring role you would think he would be cast with a black woman.  But then again Denzel was paired with Cuban actress Eva Mendes in Training Day. Like father,like son right?

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This is a picture from the upcoming comedy Meet The Blacks.  It stars comedian Mike Epps and his wife is played by Colombian actress Zulay Henao.  Once again the black woman is left out.  The black woman in the pic is his daughter.  The title of the film is supposed to be a play on words.  But it’s insulting because they’re called The Blacks…but the wife isn’t black!! How ridiculous is that??

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This is Forest Whitaker with Mexican actress Eva Longoria.  They played husband and wife in the film A Dark Truth. It always cracks me up when I see Mexicans and blacks playing lovers in films.  Mexican culture  has a strong anti-black sentiment.  I’ve had Mexican co-workers over the years.  They treat me with respect and don’t give me a hard time.  They’re cool with you in the workplace but they keep a social distance. Dating them is an entirely different story.  I know for a fact that most Mexican men hate seeing their women with black men. They find it very disgusting and think they are better than black men anyway. I even know some that wont even date a Mexican woman if she’s dated black men. That sounds like extreme hatred to me.  That sounds like the mentality of a racist white redneck.  I’m telling you that most Hispanics/Latinos as a whole don’t like black/African people. Most of them that come from Cuba,Brazil,Mexico,Puerto Rico,Colombia…are raised on white supremacy.  They believe that light skin,light colored eyes and straight hair is the beauty ideal. So naturally they will hate black people. Many Latin countries even have a term called “blanqueamiento”.  It’s a term many have never heard. Blanqueamiento, or whitening, is a social, political, and economic practice used in many post-colonial countries to `improve the race` (mejorar la raza) towards a supposed ideal of whiteness. The term blanqueamiento is rooted in Latin America and is used more or less synonymous with racial whitening.  So you can see  where their hatred of dark skin comes from.  I know black men who have dated some of these light skinned Latinas and their families usually don’t accept the black man.  Since they believe “whitening” the race is better,why would they want to darken their race?  They have to think of their children right?

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Also just as a side note,many of these Latinas are in these booty model magazines. Don’t get me wrong these magazines are very degrading to women.  I used to read them as a young man myself.  But I matured and grew out of them.  They have these women in very degrading poses,all oiled up with,rubbing their G spot with a come hither look in their eyes. Degrading as they may be, these are still magazines catered towards  black men.  So why are Latinas on the cover?  Why do they have “Latina lovers ” editions?  I don’t see black women plastered on the cover of magazines for Hispanic men. This is really pathetic.  Black women even take a backseat behind Latinas in magazines geared toward black men. And the black men who are the publishers of these magazines should be ashamed of themselves. These clowns are hyping up other races over black women. Shameful!

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This is  actress Jessica Alba and Mehki Phifer.  This is from the 2003 film Honey.  In the film he flirted with her until he won her over. In the film actress/model Joy Bryant plays Alba’s best friend. Joy is a gorgeous black woman..but of course they have Mehki’s character hook up with Alba. Not to mention that Joy is much prettier than Alba by a mile.

Here’s a video from the George Lopez show. This was back in 2010. Lopez did a DNA test on Alba.  Her mother is a blonde white woman and her father is a Mexican.  The results were not surprising to me. Alba found out she was 87% European. And she seems pretty disappointed about it.  I can understand her frustration a bit.  She sees herself as a “woman of color” so this was a wake up call for her.  I know many people see her as somewhat exotic with dark hair and full lips.  I actually saw her in person in 2014 at a social event.  She walked right by me. She may not have blonde hair, blue eyes and pale skin but at the end of the day….she’s a white woman. In the film Honey the stylist had her hair permed to give it some curl. This was an attempt to make her appear a  bit more “ethnic” because she obviously doesn’t look black. I find this interesting because  I remember reading years ago that Honey was a role written for the late r&b singer/actress Aaliyah.  When she died tragically in a plane crash in 2001…they gave the role to Jessica.   So this proves my point that this role and many others should go to black women.  But Hollywood wants to erase the image of the black woman.  They want to keep the dark skinned African looking woman away from her rightful place….with the black man.   But keeping black men and women separated is what Hollywood does best.    Even when a black woman has a starring role she is linked with a either a white partner or lover.  I have seen this in shows like Scandal,Sleepy Hollow and Minority Report. This is a way to kill two birds with one stone. By putting Latinas in these roles they are saying that they are a better match for black men. Which of course is a boldface lie.  And secondly it promotes race mixing and making pretty little “exotic babies”.  Which is brainwashing us into believing that looking less black is better.  This is another reason we need our own television studios  and production companies. That way we can promote black love and show that strong black relationships are what’s really important.  Yes I know there are dark skinned Hispanics from Brazil,Cuba,Mexico,Puerto Rico and Colombia.  I have met some really beautiful Afro-Latina sistas. I’m not speaking about Latinas that are clearly of African descent.  If they have a African textured hair,black features and have a dark brown complexion they are obviously black women.  I’m talking about these straight haired,light skinned women with obvious European features.  If you look at it from a genetic standpoint they are mostly European. I know people don’t want to admit this but it’s the truth.  Like I said before,it doesn’t matter what language you speak.  What matters in this world is race,heritage and culture. And although culture is very important,in a system of white supremacy race is the MOST important.  So don’t be fooled by these white looking Latinas in films with black men. This is not progress for black people at all.  These are interracial relationships.  You have to call it what it is. Some might have a little Africa in their bloodline but they are still NOT black.  And any black men saying it’s okay because they are “women of color” is just saying that because they want to date non-black women.  I’m very hip to that term so don’t even try it. Hollywood is doing this on purpose to make us view Latinas as more acceptable because they are not “too white” but yet “not black” either.  Doesn’t matter to me.  It all comes down  to promoting race mixing and dividing black men and women further apart. This is what their whole agenda is about. And one more thing,these Latinas get their hips,thighs and nice butt from the African woman.  That’s why many Cuban,Colombian and Puerto Rican woman have nice shapes.  Yet they want to erase the image of the black woman??  This is very insulting!! Give the original woman her props!  Why go for a cheap imitation of the black woman? When you can have the real thing.

Part 3 coming next! The wrap up!

 

Is this how Black People are seen on Mexican TV shows?


I always thought blacks and browns went through the same struggles because of racism. I guess that’s partly true. However,as I get older I’ve met Mexicans who had a lot of hatred for black people. Just like black people,they seem to have a colorism issue in their community as well.I wish we could find some type of solidarity with our brown brothers and sisters. But that’s going to be very difficult when they have television shows in Mexico that insult and degrade black people. Little Mexican children watch these shows–I wonder what image of black people they have after watching this garbage. Hmmmmmm…what do you think?