Menticide: Conversations in Black Self Hatred

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“The controllers of this society have made use of psychological warfare to erode and destroy the will and mind of Black people. This is menticide pure and simple. Once the victims discover the truth, we are forced to change our lives. But, the victim fears change because the victim doesn’t know where that change will take him or her. Indeed we fear the unknown. The victim seeks to deny but denial of this reality is problematic because the victim is reminded everyday. The victim is caught in an internal double bind, damned if they don’t, damned if they do.”- Olomenji, From an essay entitled Mentacide, Genocide and National Vision: The Crossroads for the Blacks of America.

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A few weeks ago I was talking with a friend of mine about self hatred. She told me that she has heard anti-black comments from family and friends.  I  have also heard comments from family as well as co-workers that reek of self hatred.  So I decided I would share some cooments I’ve heard over the last ten years.   I’ve heard some really ignorant comments from black co-workers. These are just a few short conversations I’ve had.

Example #1

I was eating lunch in the break room with  a black male co-worker. There’s no one else in the room but us two.

Co-worker:  Hey man,you ever screw a white girl?

Kushite:  No I haven’t.  I don’t really like them.

Co-worker: What??  That’s crazy man! You got to try a white girl at least once. I get tired of black women. Change it up a bit. It feels good giving  it to these white girls! (laughing)

Kushite:  No I’m good.  They’re not my thing.  I’m more attracted to black women. White girls do nothing for me. But you do what you want.( He just looked at me and shook his head in disbelief)

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Example #2

During a break I was talking with an African(Nigerian) co-worker.  I noticed a magazine on the desk.  As I flip through the magazine I see a picture of actress Lupita Nyongo.

Kushite: Now this is a beautiful woman!  She is truly stunning…don’t you think?

African woman:  Yes she’s kind of cute…not bad.  But you know where there are beautiful woman?  Have you heard of the Hausa tribe?

Kushite:  Yes I believe so.  Aren’t they a tribe in West Africa?

African woman:  Yes they are.  Many of them are so beautiful.  Many are very light skinned with thin lips.

Kushite:  So you’re saying they look white? Come on now!

African woman:  (very defensive)  No No!  Not what I meant.  I just mean they are very beautiful.  Light skinned with pointy noses and thin lips,you know?  That is all I meant.

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Example #3

Two  co-workers (black men) were by a cubicle and talking.  I was a few feet away behind them.  They couldn’t see me. An African woman co-worker walked by them.  She was a very dark skinned woman.

Black man #1- Did you see how dark she was?

Black man #2- Good Lord! She was dark as night! (laughing)

Black man #1- Yeah she was left in the toaster oven too long! That’s too black!(laughing)

Black man #2-  Burnt to a crisp! (both men laughing)

As a side note,Black man #1 has a biracial daughter with a white woman. And is currently dating a Mexican woman.  He doesn’t even look at black women.  Black man #2 as a daughter with a black woman although they have since broken up.  He told me he is currently engaged to a mixed woman.  Mixed with what??  He told me she mixed with white and Mexican.  He even showed me a picture of this below average looking woman.  She looks pretty white to me.  Both of these “men” are pathetic examples of the black race.

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These are just a few examples that come to mind.  Can you name an instance of black self hatred?  Or maybe a comment that someone may have made that sounds anti-black? Something insulting about nappy hair?  Or something degrading about skin color?  I’m sure you’ve heard these comments before.   I’d love to read your examples.

 

Jesse Williams: Deconstructing the Message

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It seems as though the Jesse Williams speech at the BET Awards has caused quite a bit of controversy.  I have seen a lot of arguing between black people on social media.  Some black people say the speech was on point.  Some say he’s biracial and can’t be trusted.  Some black women are swooning over his light skin and light colored eyes. Some believe he’s an agent for the white power structure.  And some believe he was given the platform to confuse black people even more.  I wanted to put up some videos that may give a different perspective on this man,his speech and his intentions.

This is a great video by Holipsism.  Holipsism wants to know what is the end result of the speech.  Does Jesse want Black Power? Is Jesse just pushing social integration?  Holipsism raises some very important questions many have not brought up.

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This video(above) is  by Radical HomeGoddess.  She explains why she doesn’t trust Williams.  She explores the evidence of him being down with the homosexual agenda. He even compares the black struggle with the so-called gay struggle for rights.  Which we know there is NO comparison.  He is also working on a documentary about the Black Lives Matter movement.  Of course anyone who has done some research knows the organization is funded by white racist George Soros. So check out the videos and draw your own conclusions.  Is Jesse down for black liberation?  Or does he just know how to give a good speech?

Militant Mulattoes: Jesse Williams,Zaza Ali and J. Cole

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This past Sunday was the BET Awards.  It’s a celebration of black music,television and film.  I used to watch the award show years ago but it doesn’t hold my interest much anymore.  Mainly because the show promotes music that denigrates black women,colorism,negative images of black people and all around anti-blackness. But yesterday all over the news they were covering a speech given by biracial actor Jesse Williams.  He was given the Humanitarian Award and gave a passionate speech about racism ,oppression,police brutality and cultural appropriation.  That’s a lot to cover under four minutes.  Williams is an actor on the ABC drama Grey’s Anatomy. Some fear he may lose his job for speaking out on these issues.  I highly doubt he will lose his job. If anything he will be praised for speaking on these issues.  Here’s what he said:

This is for the real organizers all over the country, the activist, the civil rights attorneys, the struggling parents, the families, the teachers, the students that are realizing that a system built to divide and impoverish and destroy us cannot stand if we do. It’s kinda basic mathematics: the more we learn about who we are and how we got here the more we will mobilize.

“This award is also for the black women in particular who have spent their lives nurturing everyone before themselves – we can and will do better for you.

“Now, what we’ve been doing is looking at the data and we know that police somehow manage to de-escalate, disarm and not kill white people every day. So what’s going to happen is we’re going to have equal rights and justice in our own country or we will restructure their function and ours.

“I got more, y’all. Yesterday would have been young Tamir Rice’s 14th birthday so I don’t want to hear any more about how far we’ve come when paid public servants can pull a drive-by on a 12-year-old playing alone in a park in broad daylight, killing him on television, and then going home to make a sandwich.

“Tell Rekia Boyd how it’s so much better to live in 2012 than 1612 or 1712. Tell that to Eric Garner, Sandra Bland.

“The thing is though, all of us here are getting money, that alone isn’t going to stop this. Dedicating our lives to getting money just to give it right back to put someone’s brand on our body – when we spent centuries praying with brands on our bodies, and now we pray to get paid for brands on our bodies?

“There has been no war that we have not fought and died on the front lines of. There is no job we haven’t done, there is no tax they haven’t levied against us, and we have paid all of them.

“But freedom is always conditional here. ‘You’re free!’ they keeping telling us. ‘But she would be alive if she hadn’t acted so … free.’ Now, freedom is always coming in the hereafter, but the hereafter is a hustle: We want it now.

“Let’s get a couple of things straight. The burden of the brutalized is not to comfort the bystander – that’s not our job so let’s stop with all that. If you have a critique for our resistance then you’d better have an established record, a critique of our oppression.

“If you have no interest in equal rights for black people then do not make suggestions to those who do: sit down.

“We’ve been floating this country on credit for centuries, and we’re done watching and waiting while this invention called whiteness uses and abuses us, burying black people out of sight and out of mind while extracting our culture, our dollars, our entertainment like oil – black gold! – ghettoizing and demeaning our creations and stealing them, gentrifying our genius and then trying us on like costumes before discarding our bodies like rinds of strange fruit.

“Just because we’re magic doesn’t mean we’re not real.

“Thank you.”

It was a decent speech and he touched on a lot of issues.  But I noticed when they showed his parents in the audience I noticed his white mother.  I think this causes a lot of confusion for black people.  Can you be pro-black with a white parent? This is something I’ve noticed over the last few years.  There are many biracial people coming out speaking on the black struggle.  Many biracial people have gotten the spotlight in the entertainment and sports world.

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Canadian rapper Drake is one of the biggest rappers in the industry right now. This is his white mother,Sandi.

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Grammy award winning singer/actress  Alicia Keys has spoken on issues that affect the black community.  Even though her mother Terria is a white woman.

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Rapper J. Cole gets a lot of praise for dropping socially conscious lyrics. This pic is of him and his mother Kay.

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Some people tend to forget but legendary reggae singer Bob Marley sang about black unity and African people.  Even though he  had a white father.

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On the black conscious circuit there is a biracial woman named Zaza Ali.  I first be familiar with her back in 2013.  She was doing a radio show with rapper Professor Griff.  She touched on issues such as black empowerment,religion,feminism,racism and politics.  She became quite popular in a short time.  Since then she and Griff have parted ways.  And she is now doing lectures and selling dvd’s and books.  I got the felling she was using Griff to get to the next level on the lecture circuit.  Also I think she knows that her light skin,white features and “good hair” will attract more attention then the darker skinned black women.  She is using the fact that many black people are self loathing and will fawn over her looks.  And she has become quite successful in the process. Many people believe she was a fraud from the beginning.  I also heard that she dated Griff and the broke up after she was down with him.  I can’t say I’m surprised at all.  Shame on Griff for falling for it.

In this video(above) Zaza is confronted by a caller on a radio show.  The caller asks her can she truly be against white supremacy if she has a white mother.  You will notice in the video that Zaza never answers the question.  I’m not really surprised at her response.  This also goes back to the Jesse Williams speech.  Can you really fight this racist system if your parent is white?  How can you give 100% against white racism if you came from a white vagina?  I don’t think it’s really possible. A mother is the first person a baby learns to love.  Your mother fed you and cared for you as a baby. Now you’re going to fight against the people who look just like her. NO way in Hell is that going to happen.  Black people need major systematic change for the empowerment of how our people.  And I just don’t think most biracial/mixed people are going to go all the way when the time comes. Also  Jesse Williams is working on a documentary about the Black Lives Matters movement. I have already covered how BLM is funded by rich white folks.  Any movement funded by your open enemy will not liberate you.  Always remember that.

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So while it was nice that Williams spoke out against white racism it is nothing new.  Marcus Garvey spoke about that decades ago.  Williams talked about police brutality.  Kwame Toure did that years ago. So let’s not act like Williams is the next Malcolm X.  He brought up issues that should be brought up but he said nothing new. It’s just that he was given a large platform to say it to millions of people so it’s getting a lot of hype.  You must also keep in mind that BET is owned by Viacom. The president is a white man named Philippe Dauman. This speech was planned in advance.  They already knew what he was going to say.  This was no surprise. They used this opportunity to stir up some controversy and get people talking.  And it worked.  Black people get excited when we hear some truth don’t we?  But I believe that hearing pro-black rhetoric is more palatable when coming from biracial people.  It’s more acceptable by whites when they hear it from them because they know they have a white parent.  So they don’t take it that seriously.  And many black people suffer from low self esteem so we like hearing this language from someone with light skin,straight hair and light colored eyes.  And Jesse knew what he was doing when he shouted out the black women.  Many black women in the audience were standing up clapping.  I’m sure many of them were fawning over his light skinned ambiguous looks. Much the same way Zaza Ali many times will come down hard on black women.  And she will talk about black men in a positive light.  And of course many black men in the conscious community fawn over her and call her a “real Black queen”.  Do you see the pattern?  I’m telling you,these biracial people know exactly what they’re doing.  I understand they can’t help their parent is a white person. They have no control over that.  But I just wonder why they are given a platform to speak so often on black issues.  They are not of majority African descent.  They maybe non-whte but that doesn’t automatically make them black either. So what do you think? Should they be given a platform to speak for us?  And also can they be genuine in the struggle…if they have a white parent?

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Lupita Nyong’o vs Alicia Keys: Black Beauty Standard

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What is beauty? Many say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Therefore anyone can come up with their own definition of beauty.  I can agree with that to a certain extent. We all have our own personal like and dislikes.  But in a male dominated society the beauty of a woman is very important.  There are many good looking men in the world but it only carries you so far as a man.  But for women their beauty can open many doors for them.  A man is usually judged by his financial status.  It’s ultimately about what is his income and can he be a provider.  There are many women who have college degrees and make a lot of money nowadays.  But for the most part women are still judged by their beauty.  Their beauty is seen as social capital.  Not only is our society dominated by men…but also dominated by Europeans.  This makes things doubly hard for black/African women.  The woman in the picture above is actress Lupita Nyong’o.  Over the last few years she has taken Hollywood by storm. Lupita is an African woman.  She was born in Mexico and raised in Kenya.  She has been praised for her acting ability most notably the film 12 Years a Slave.  Which he won an Academy award for.  But she has also been praised for her beauty.  When I first saw her in an interview back in 2013 I thought she was a stunning beauty.  She had a beautiful smile,full lips and smooth dark chocolate skin. She has a very asymmetrical face. Her beauty seems almost otherworldly.  I was somewhat surprised that the media was giving her so much praise.  The white media rarely gives praise to a black woman with her skin tone and features. I haven’t seen this since maybe Lauryn Hill. Lauryn was a close second by the way.  I almost picked her for this post. But it was praise that was well deserved.  Although I find her gorgeous there are far more light skinned/biracial women that get more praise in the media.

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Which brings me to singer/actress Alicia Keys.  Many black men I’ve talked to say that Alicia Keys is a beautiful woman. She’s not a bad looking woman at all.  But I’ve heard people say that she is a great representation of a beautiful black woman. This is a serious problem in the black community.  The problem is that Alicia Keys is biracial/mixed. She has a  white mother. The issue is really not about Alicia Keys.  I’m just using her as an example.  It’s more about what she represents. And I’ve heard other people say that actresses like Paula Patton,Halle Berry,Stacey Dash,Zendaya Coleman,Zoe Kravitz,Tracee Ellis Ross,Thandie Newton and Carmen Ejogo ..described as beautiful black women.  Even though they are all biracial women. This is the problem with the black beauty standard. And this is what needs to change. We have to be honest about this.

This video by Youtuber Chrissie explains the problem of biracial women getting so much shine.  Many of them get offended and upset when this reality is pointed out.  The reality is that a women like Alicia Keys should not be the representative of black beauty.  Every race and ethnic group has it’s own standard.  Whites have a standard and Asians have their standard.  When a woman is part Chinese and part African,the Chinese  do not accept that woman as their standard of beauty.  They will say she’s mixed race and in most cases most Asians don’t accept them as Asian at all.  So why is it so different with black people? Why do black people so willingly accept biracial women as OUR standard of beauty?

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As far as an African standard of beauty I would choose Lupita. Some of you may disagree with me.  I know there are thousands of African woman I could choose from.  I have featured many of them here on my blog.  But Lupita is an easy choice considering she is in the spotlight at the moment.  I think the one-drop rule has brainwashed millions of black people.  We think anything that is lighter skinned and light eyes is a better representation of blackness.  A watered down version is better than what we really look like.  There are millions of dark skinned and brown skinned black women who never make it big in the acting or modeling world.  And the few that do are not seen as “classic beauties”.  They are always seen as the “exotic other”.  Much the same way many whites in Hollywood look at Lupita.  But I really don’t care what racist whites think.  I’m more concerned about what we think and how we feel about each other.  We can no longer let the pseudoscience of the one drop rule over us anymore. We should be able to create our own standard of beauty.  We should not let another group of people dictate to us what should be considered attractive.

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It’s okay if people disagree with me.  But who would you choose?  Name three women you think would be a good representation of black beauty. They can be actresses,models,singers etc.  What is African beauty? What should black beauty look like? What women would represent it the best?

Kendrick Lamar and Rapsody- Complexion(A Zulu Love)

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Dark as the midnight hour or bright as the mornin’ sun
Give a fuck about your complexion, I know what the Germans done

Sneak (dissin’)
Sneak me through the back window, I’m a good field nigga
I made a flower for you outta cotton just to chill with you

You know I’d go the distance, you know I’m ten toes down
Even if master listenin’, cover your ears, he ’bout to mention

[Hook]

[Verse 2: Kendrick Lamar]
Dark as the midnight hour, I’m bright as the mornin’ sun
Brown skinned, but your blue eyes tell me your mama can’t run
Sneak (dissin’)
Sneak me through the back window, I’m a good field nigga
I made a flower for you outta cotton just to chill with you

You know I’d go the distance, you know I’m ten toes down
Even if master’s listenin’, I got the world’s attention

So I’mma say somethin’ that’s vital and critical for survival
Of mankind, if he lyin’, color should never rival
Beauty is what you make it, I used to be so mistaken
By different shades of faces

Then Whit told me, “A woman is woman, love the creation”
It all came from God then you was my confirmation
I came to where you reside
And looked around to see more sights for sore eyes

Let the Willie Lynch theory reverse a million times with…

[Hook]

[Interlude]
You like it, I love it (x8)
(Where the homegirl Rapsody at?
I need you to speak your mind real quick loved one!)

[Verse 3: Rapsody]
Let me talk my Stu Scott, ‘scuse me on my 2Pac
Keep your head up, when did you stop loving thy

Color of your skin, color of your eyes
That’s the real blues, baby, like you met Jay’s baby
You blew me away, you think more beauty in blue, green and grey

All my solemn men up north, 12 years a slave
12 years of age, thinkin’ my shade too dark
I love myself, I no longer need Cupid

Enforcin’ my dark side like a young George Lucas
Light don’t mean you smart, bein’ dark don’t make you stupid
And frame of mind for them bustas, ain’t talkin’ “Woohah!”

Need a paradox for the pair of daughters they tutored
Like two ties, L-L, you lose two times

If you don’t see you beautiful in your complexion
It ain’t complex to put it in context
Find the air beneath the kite, that’s the context
Yeah, baby, I’m conscious, ain’t no contest
If you like it, I love it, all your earth tones been blessed

Ain’t no stress, jigga boos wanna be
I ain’t talkin’ Jay, I ain’t talkin’ B
I’m talkin’ days we got school watchin’ movie screens
And spike your self esteem
The new James Bond gon’ be black as me

Black as brown, hazelnut, cinnamon, black tea
And it’s all beautiful to me

Call your brothers magnificent, call all the sisters queens
We all on the same team, blues and pirus, no colors ain’t a thing

[Outro: Kendrick Lamar]
Barefoot babies with no cares
Teenage gun toters that don’t play fair, should I get out the car?
I don’t see Compton, I see something much worse
The land of the landmines, the hell that’s on earth