Happy Father’s Day to all the brothers out there. Much respect to the black men raising their children and being responsible parents. This is a great music video by rap group ED OG and Da Bulldogs. This was released back in 1991 and we need more songs like this on the radio.
Here are some suggestions to facilitate fathers to stay on the right path.
1. Fathers, should always be in prayer and pray with and for their children, families, and communities. Leading prayer openly and inclusive of all family and even community members.
2. Fathers, make mistakes, but own up and admit them. Fathers work to correct mistakes they have made. Working not to repeat them and modeling for the next generation.
3. Fathers, discipline children with love and not with physical violence, verbal degrading or emotional manipulation. Fathers should know their children and what type of relationship to build for the future.
4. Fathers, take their children to church and bible study to learn the Word of God.
5. Fathers, are not perfect so must ask God for wisdom, direction and discernment each day.
6. Fathers, don’t blame others for their weakness, but work to strengthen themselves in the Word of God.
7. Fathers, will not “follow the guys” when they are disrespecting women, this sets an inappropriate and dangerous model for their sons to follow and what their daughters should tolerate in behaviors.
8. Fathers, don’t block their children’s anointing with ungodly actions and behaviors.
9. Fathers, ask for discernment to recognize the signs of trouble before they happen. Modeling is important to guide behaviors.
10. Fathers, model respect for the church and work in the church.
11. Fathers, anoint their children with prayer for protection and mercy.
12. Fathers, model respect for their daughter on how to be treated.
13. Fathers, promote education in the household.
14. Fathers, talk to their children about drugs and sex before the street do.
15. Fathers, do not whine about what “HIS” daddy did not do for him, but follow a model indicative of Godly men.
16. Fathers, do not blame where he came from for his short-comings. He focuses on where he is going and the hard work necessary to get there.
17. Fathers, take the time to visit their children’s school and talk with teachers about their children’s progress.
18. Fathers, will happily sacrifice for their family so they may have what the need.
19. Fathers, accepts responsibility for their children’s actions. Remembering that the apple does not fall far from the tree.
20. Fathers, will go visit their children and spend time with them even though he may not be present in the home. Taking responsibility for a life that they helped create.
21. Fathers, aren’t afraid to show love, compassion and sympathy to their children, children still need reinforcement that they are loved and respected.
22. Fathers, spend time just being together with their children and doing things their children like and will remember, not just buying things that will be forgotten later in life.
23. Fathers, teach your child to be responsible and accountable for their actions.
24. Fathers must model and teach respect, honor, patience, ethics and fear of the Lord and man’s laws.
Article by William D. Jackson
This is a great documentary on Black Fatherhood. This is a short documentary focusing on the thoughts, experiences and ideas of different Black men on the importance of fatherhood. With so many negative images aimed at Black men being fathers these are some real life stories from men expressing that Daddy Matters.
A recent New York Times study led with the sobering headline, “1.5 Million Missing Black Men.” It included such findings as this: “Of the 1.5 million missing black men from 25 to 54—which demographers call the prime-age years—higher imprisonment rates account for almost 600,000. Almost 1 in 12 black men in this age group are behind bars.” This massive incarceration, compounded by substandard health care and fragile mortality rates, results in a fact that leaped from the study:
More than one out of every six black men who today should be between 25 and 54 years old have disappeared from daily life.
Here’s the thing, though: Many of them aren’t “missing.” They haven’t “disappeared.” Many of them have been stolen, ripped from their families to feed bloated prison cells, then regurgitated back out into society, more than likely unable to vote or find a job that enables them to care for their families. There is a direct line from slavery straight to the prison-industrial complex, a devastating continuum that first dehumanizes, then enslaves and criminalizes black bodies for profit, ultimately rendering them killable in the eyes of society. And because patriarchy is the poison of choice in a heteronormative society that places value on the “traditional” family and its central role in community building, there has always been a very concentrated effort to subjugate and oppress black men.
“People think they don’t care, but we know they do,” said Joseph Jones, president of the Center for Urban Families, an organization that works to support African-American fathers, to the Los Angeles Times. “We see how dads are fighting against the odds to be engaged in the lives of their children.”
In 2013 the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention released a study that I’ve cited often over the years, “Fathers’ Involvement With Their Children: United States, 2006-2010” (pdf). It does a great job shattering some pervasive myths about African-American fathers. The findings include the following:
* More African-American fathers live with their children (2.5 million) than live apart from their children (1.7 million).
Of African-American fathers surveyed who live with their children,
* 78.2 percent fed or ate meals with their children daily, compared with 73.9 percent of white fathers;
* 70.4 percent bathed, diapered or dressed their children daily, compared with 60.0 percent of white fathers;
* 82.2 percent played with their children daily, compared with 82.7 percent of white fathers;
* 34.9 percent read to their children daily, compared with 24.9 percent of white fathers;
* 40.6 percent helped their children with their homework or checked to make sure that they finished it daily, compared with 29.3 percent of white fathers.
* Of the fathers who live away from their children, African-American fathers outperformed white and Latino fathers on nearly all measures surveyed, including reading to their children daily, helping them with homework and changing their diapers.
While it is certainly true that many fathers need to step up and take better care of their children, this is not specific to black fathers by a long shot; and yet too many of us have internalized that self-hatred as easily as we’ve digested the myth of black-on-black crime. Even where there is parity in the numbers, black fathers surveyed were no less present in their children’s lives, despite the deadbeat-dad myth that dogs their steps.
It could be argued, then, that pundits and politicians would be better served pontificating on the pathology of absent white fathers, those who aren’t faced with the same structural impediments but still come up short. You know, the ones who start at third base but still can’t make it to home plate for dinner.
And for those in our communities who would say, “Well, we shouldn’t be concerned about what other fathers are doing,” I would then question why too many people with a platform seem to be performing that criticism for the white gaze in order to procure “tough love” points and respectability certificates.
Conservative demagogues, such as Bill O’Reilly and Geraldo Rivera, are expected to indulge in such tactics out of either malice or ignorance, but the propaganda also comes from African-American men in high places, such as President Barack Obama, whose scathing indictments seem to reflect a desire to play the role of father-in-chief, reprimanding a wayward African-American demographic that dreams of earning his approval.
Article written by Kirsten West Savali
This is the final scene from the 1992 film South Central. It stars Glenn Plummer in the role as Bobby. Bobby was a street thug who started a gang in South Central Los Angeles. Bobby ends up going to prison and is locked up for years. While in jail he meets a conscious black man that gives him books filled with knowledge and righteousness. Bobby finds out that his since he was locked up his son has been getting into criminal activity. The man in prison tells Bobby to go save his son from the cycle of violence too many black men face in the ghetto. He makes Bobby promise that he would give his life to save his son. Bobby meets up with his old gang buddy who has his son. A black man fighting to save the life of his son?? I don’t see that too much in films today. This scene is very powerful and touching at the same time. You might find yourself tearing up a bit.
Father’s day is this coming Sunday. I was lucky enough to have my father around throughout my whole life. He always gave my sound advice and I knew I could talk to him about anything. He always told me he loved me and was proud of me. In school I felt bad for the kids that didn’t know their fathers. Some of them just saw their fathers once or twice a year. Or sometimes just on holidays. This is a big problem in the black community. We have some black men that just leave their children with the mother and don’t want the responsibility of fatherhood. Dead beat dads are the worse. But you also have some black women who push the father’s away and wont let the father see their children. We got some serious work to do in our community. The black family is in desperate need of repair. But this post is a big shout out to all the fathers out there that know the importance of fatherhood. And how much boys and girls need their father has a teacher,provider and protector. That’s what my father is to me. This is a great poem by Richard Rowe. I hope you like it.
To Black fathers who have tried to provide and protect.
To Black fathers who continue to encourage and empower their children.
To Black fathers who love Black mothers.
To Black fathers who practice what they preach.
Set the example.
To Black fathers who reach out and reach back.
Continue to uplift.
To Black fathers who are honest and honorable.
Remember Martin King.
To Black fathers who are determined and disciplined.
To Black fathers who have not given up.
To Black fathers who are courageous and demanding.
To Black fathers who are systematic and work hard.
For Black fathers who are self-determining.
Remember Booker T.
For Black fathers who have decided to win,
who have decided to fight back,
who don’t make excuses and
who promote and practice the essence of
Let’s continue to celebrate the power of our endurance.
Let’s continue to choose the right path.
Let’s remain strong and let’s keep the faith.