I’m Pro-Black but….I date non-blacks??

Black Prince and....What..

Don’t laugh at that picture above.  This so-called proud African man actually married that creature.  I know it’s hard to believe. This is a subject that shouldn’t even  have to be addressed.  But it seems to be a bit of a problem in the conscious community.  It would seem that if a person is pro-black and race conscious that they would want to marry a black person.  So it would seem. But we have these people some refer to as Fake Hoteps,that are making the truly conscious look bad.  I have even seen it with black conscious black women too.  They have on their African clothing,wearing braids or dreadlocks….and holding the hand of a white man!  This is absolutely insane in my mind!

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I even had some fool that told me this is not a contradiction.  This is a major contradiction.  If you love your African culture,love your heritage…it would be natural to want to be with a black person.  You would want to pro create with a black person.  Why would you want to dilute your bloodline with another race?  It makes no sense.  If you love yourself and how you look..why would you want children that don’t look like you? This is not about hating another race either.  This is about self love and loving your own people.

This is a good video(above) by Pharaoh Allah. He speaks about all the pitfalls to dating white people.  While he is a bit animated at times I agree with his overall point.  And why it doesn’t help the black community in the long run.  Many of these fake dudes talk about black power but it’s all just an act. If you’re going to talk about it  then  you need to BE about it!  I’m tired of all these contradictions in our community.  And this also goes for people using the excuse of  “people of color” so they can marry Hispanics and Asians.  I’m well aware of this ongoing trend.

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This picture(above) looks ridiculous!  What is this white man doing in African clothing?  He looks like a damn fool!  But this is the type of silliness and confusion that happens when we date/marry other races. It doesn’t matter if the person is Mexican,Chinese,Filipino,Cuban or Japanese.  If they are NOT a black person and you claim to be pro-black…you are full of crap!  You’re a walking contradiction.  And you make the rest of us(real conscious) look bad.  And we get lumped in the same group of disingenuous conscious people.  And I’m sick of it.  If you want to date/marry other races then just do it.   Go make some mixed babies and go on with your life.  But no more of this stupid ass fence riding. And please  stop saying you’re conscious,pro black or a Pan Africanist….because it’s obvious you are not.  Peace.

Clarification Needed:Real Conscious Sistas vs Fake Bohemian Women(Part 1)

This is a video by Tariq Nasheed. Tariq is a film producer/author/pick up artist.  In this video he talks about the fake Bohemian chicks.   I’ve heard this  term before.   Sometimes they are called fake conscious women,Hotep Hos and wannabe deep mystical women.  Tariq even calls them Herbal Tea chicks.  Yes he likes to be funny at times.  I guess he sees himself as a comedian.  Well he believes that most of them are freaks in bed and they all smoke weed.  He says whether they are black or white women.  Most of the white women I’ve seen who dress up like Rastafarians and wear their hair in “gold locks”  are just trying to sleep with black men.  White people look so silly trying to wear braids and locks in their hair.  But that’s another subject.  One thing I hate is broad generalizations.  Most of the sistas I meet who are Afrocentric  are not freaky whores.  I don’t think that’s an accurate description at all.  I will admit that many of them do wear their hair natural,many are vegan(not all),shop at farmers markets,into holistic health and like different oils and shea butter.  But so what?  There’s nothing wrong with wanting a healthier lifestyle  and wearing natural hair.

I love this natural hair video.  It showcases some lovely sistas.  I think this whole natural hair movement is a great thing.  I think it shows that black women don’t want to conform to European standards of beauty.  And this hair revolution has really caught on in the black conscious community.  I think we need to get rid of sick terms like “good hair”.  They are self destructive terms that instill anti-blackness.  Good hair is healthy hair. And I think we as black men should see this as a good thing that more black women are embracing their natural African-textured hair.  Most of the conscious women I’ve met have been down to earth decent sistas.  Most are not judgmental or mean spirited.  Most I’ve met have been very friendly and happy to meet a brother that has knowledge of self.  I’ve had great discussions with sistas about racism,feminism,misogyny,healthy diet,unemployment and the prison system. I don’t think we should make blanket statements about people like that.  I don’t think we should be poking fun at people gaining knowledge of self. They should be given props for putting forth the effort.

Sheroes

I’ve had conscious sistas tell me they admire women like Marimba Ani,Frances Cress Welsing,Sister Souljah,Harriet Tubman,Betty Shabazz and Assata Shakur.  I think it’s a beautiful thing when black women can look up to sistas who tried to uplift our people.   I don’t think brothers should feel intimidated by the achievements of black women.   It doesn’t mean they are anti-men at all.  There’s no need to say they hate men or that they’re lesbians.   I realize that there are some black feminists that do honestly hate men.  I know because I have chatted with many of them on social media. But most sistas  I meet are not that way.  Also I think many of them have just been hurt by men in the past.  And it’s really sadness that they feel and it eventually turns into anger. Black women have a right to discuss their pain and suffering.  It’s okay for a sista to have an opinion. And we as black men should be open to hearing their voice.  The pain that many black women feel comes from the fact that many feel no one cares about them.  There are many memes on the internet that make fun of them.   By ignorant black men no less. Many calling their hair ugly and nappy.  And I’ve seen memes that poke fun at dark skinned women. I will be addressing this hatred of dark skin in an upcoming post. This is really anti-blackness at it’s core.  So I don’t think it’s funny to make fun of my conscious sistas. At least they’re putting forth the effort to learn about African culture,history and the greatness that is in our bloodline.  If anything we should be saluting these black women.  Not calling them fake Bohemian chicks.  It’s the same thing when they generalize conscious brothers as “fake hoteps” That will be addressed in part two.

Natural Hair

I just want all my conscious pro-black sistas to know that I love you.  Keep reading your African history books, eating vegan,burning incense,shopping at farmers markets,wearing headwraps and listening to Lauryn Hill  and Erykah Badu music.  Keep doing your thing!  Embrace your inner beauty as well as your outer beauty.  And know that you truly are the physical manifestation of God.  I applaud my sistas trying to better themselves and showing young black girls a better past.  Many conscious sistas were on the wrong path themselves and don’t want to see the younger generation make the same mistakes.  As we all know in African culture the mother is the first teacher. It’s really shame that we make fun of those who are trying to seek higher knowledge.  That shows how deep this anti-blackness goes.  We are  a damaged people and in need of healing.  So I leave you with this great video by Queen Afua. She speaks about the need for healing.  Which we really need right now. And no she is not some fake wannabe conscious woman.  She is the REAL deal.  Peace to all my sistas.  I love you. ❤