Like any man I love a beautiful woman. Some men notice the body of a woman first. Some men notice the lovely face. But over the years I have met beautiful black women at the bookstore,grocery store,concerts,festivals,schools,movie theaters and malls. Sometime I would meet black women that had an amazing body and a gorgeous face. But after getting to know them I found out they had a ghetto mentality. I used to know a black female coworker that was very attractive. Then I saw her white husband pick her up from work one day. Another coworker told me that she can’t stand black men and worships white men. Needless to say,I was immediately turned off! Her attractiveness quickly disappeared. So you can’t judge a woman just on being beautiful. But I’ve also ran into black women who sport their natural hair and wearing Afrocentric clothing and beads. And see them with their white boyfriends! What the hell is that?? That’s a totally contradiction in my mind. There are also black men who claim to be Afrocentric that date white women too. This is a very backwards mentality. I don’t see the point of being so-called conscious or “woke” but still dating white people. Obviously they aren’t “woke” enough. I will admit that I do love seeing black women in head wraps and Afrocentric clothing. Sometimes conscious sistas are made fun of in the black community. They are sometimes seen as a women who drink herbal tea,wear natural hair,vegetrarian,use shea butter and reads books on black history and culture. But to be honest,I don’t have a problem with any of those things. As a matter of fact I think a woman’s mind is what’s most attractive. I think intelligence is extremely sexy. I guess you could say I’m a sapiosexual. A woman with true knowledge of self and love for her people is a real turn on. Mainly because when you first meet someone there’s the immediate physical attraction. And there can be amazing chemistry. But when looking for a long term relationship you have to look a bit deeper. In my opinion,character lasts longer then chemistry.
Bakari Henderson was beaten to death last week in the Greek Islands. He was only 22 years old with his whole life ahead of him. It was at a nightclub by a group of racist Serbians. I heard that he had taken a picture with a white women. And I guess the Serbian guys didn’t like that too much. He was beaten by a bouncer,bartender and six tourists. Henderson was with a group of white “friends”. His so called friends say how much they loved him and cared for him. So…why didn’t they intervene? Since they loved him so much. This is a damn shame!
I feel bad for this young brother. I feel bad anytime there is the loss of black life. I feel for his family as well. But we have to be honest. He put himself in harms way. It doesn’t matter if they were Serbians. Europeans are the same no matter where you go. First things first. Going out with a white woman and a group of white friends to Europe is a bad move! No black friends in sight. Europe is rampant with racism. The anti-blackness is through the roof! But I think he was young and naïve. I guess he didn’t know it at the time put he put himself in danger by doing that. Black people need to understand this when they travel abroad. Places like Europe and Middle east are very anti-black. I’m not saying you shouldn’t travel. I think black people should get a passport and travel more. But just be smart about it. Go with someone that has been to the country before. And go with a group of other black people. Whether they are family or personal friends. Just make sure it’s some people that aren’t going to just stand around like cowards while you’re getting beat to death. A lot of our people have bought into the idea of being color blind. Or that “loves sees no color”. Well if you think like that you need to snap out of that fantasy. It could be a matter of life and death. Let Bakari be a lesson to others. Peace.